have you realized youre lesbian and youre married? Take it one day at a time. Get a therapist if you can to help you process the emotional path ahead of you, guilt, shame and regrets. I ended up getting married, more for convenience than for passion. To have a little pleasure, close my eyes and imagine myself having sex with a woman. To dream often of being able to experiment, because just by looking at an interesting woman, i could tell the sex with her would be complete, fulfilling. Lisa dordal, who came out after being married to a man for five years, explains, i finally embraced the fact that i was a lesbian when i came out of the closet at age 30. In high school and college, i wrote poems about girls and women i had crushes on and can also remember falling in. I love my husband, and i believe he knows in his heart i am gay. when you are questioning your sexuality and wondering if you are a lesbian or not, you may be hoping there are certain signs that will help you figure it out. Although this is not a sure-fire test, if you experience three or more of these eight signs, you might be a lesbian. i was in a bar in chicago when i told a close friend of 20 years that, despite being a lesbian, i was marrying a man. do lesbians ever fall for women who are married to men, and do straight married women fall for lesbians? All the time. over 250 self-help support groups and discussion forums for people who need emotional support, help with a mental health, relationship, parenting, or sexual problem, and mental illness support. Dreams of seeing married to a lesbian but being a perfect woman dream interpretation. Age (old man or old woman) happiness and satisfaction have been reached. On one hand, you are fascinated by age, because it implies maturity, experience, and the ability to judge. lesbians often do not think that i am gay enough or that i am pretending, or see my current relationship as me hiding my true self to blend in.