when tina humphrys, 70, first fell in love with a woman, she didnt define herself as a lesbian, i just thought its her. these women were not unhappy being lesbians, but love, it seems, really can conquer all including a persons lifelong sexual orientation up to the moment when she falls hard for someone of a previously ignored gender. But diamond and other researchers have compiled numerous case studies of gay men who spent years feeling (and acting.). It was once bewildering to me that my mother could be so candid about sex. But after speaking with sylvia, barbara and michele all women 70 or older about their relationships to pleasure, i now realize that some women only grow more comfortable in their sexualities and in their bodies as they age. why do so many middle aged women become lesbians? Ive known of several women aged 35-45 who seemingly give up on finding a good man, and they begin to go out more with other women, and then move in with another woman. It does seem like there are lots and lots more single women than single men nowadays. If you reached out to an older woman and find yourself talking to her, make a note of how often she asks about you. Generally speaking, when women are genuinely interested in getting to know you, they will ask you various questions of a more personal nature. Women who do this genuinely want to figure out who you are as a person.